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6.9.16 02:07 - Hello, World!
Īstā vairošanās notiek pēc bērna piedzimšanas.7.3.16 21:07 - Ačgārnības
Kaut kur taču noteikti ir vecāki, kuri sit bērnus pie blekmetāla. Daudz vieglāk, protams, iztēloties - pie estrādes mūzikas. Bet gan jau kaut kur skan blekmetāls un pa grīdu tiek spārdīts no dzīves noguris bērns. Varu derēt - viens tāds gadījums ziņās, un blekmetālu aizliegtu ar likumu. Abet Pugačova un Ļeontjevs (vai kas mums tur tagad ir teliķī) var laimīgi maurot tālāk, kamēr vecāki kulturāli kož un spārdās pod miļioni miļioni miļioni alih roz. Lai Raimis nogrābstās.11.2.16 00:23 - Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars
In conclusion, the objective of economic research, as conducted by the magnates ofcapital (banking) and the industries of commodities (goods) and services, is the
establishment of an economy which is totally predictable and manipulatable.
In order to achieve a totally predictable economy, the low-class elements of society must
be brought under total control, i.e., must be housebroken, trained, and assigned a yoke
and long-term social duties from a very early age, before they have an opportunity to
question the propriety of the matter. In order to achieve such conformity, the lower-class
family unit must be disintegrated by a process of increasing preoccupation of the parents
and the establishment of government-operated day-care centers for the occupationally
orphaned children.
The quality of education given to the lower class must be of the poorest sort, so that the
moat of ignorance isolating the inferior class from the superior class is and remains
incomprehensible to the inferior class. With such an initial handicap, even bright lower
class individuals have little if any hope of extricating themselves from their assigned lot
in life. This form of slavery is essential to maintain some measure of social order, peace,
and tranquility for the ruling upper class.
[..]
Everything that is expected from an ordinary weapon is expected from a silent weapon by
its creators, but only in its own manner of functioning.
It shoots situations, instead of bullets; propelled by data processing, instead of chemical
reaction (explosion); originating from bits of data, instead of grains of gunpowder; from a
computer, instead of a gun; operated by a computer programmer, instead of a marksman;
under the orders of a banking magnate, instead of a military general.
[..]
The public might instinctively feel that something is wrong, but that is because of the
technical nature of the silent weapon, they cannot express their feeling in a rational way,
or handle the problem with intelligence. Therefore, they do not know how to cry for help,
and do not know how to associate with others to defend themselves against it.
23.1.16 14:58 - Īsta mīlestība
Visa tā "korupcija" un lokālā un globālā mēroga noziedzība, sociālā netaisnība etc. turas uz meliem un bailēm. A tie, kas uztraucas, ka līdz ar to visu zudīšot ceļi, vienkārši baidās ieskatīties jautājumā.Mēs to vardarbību ārpusē pieņemam, pieņemot to sevī. Ielaižot. Visādi tie nostiprinošie modeļi. Kā piemērs - sīkais (pilsonis) gaida no mātes (no izcelsmes "mums", valsts - mūsu gadījumā no Padomju Savienības vai Latvijas Republikas) mīlestību, pieņemšanu, drošības sajūtu. Bet muterīte ir sapērusies patmīlībā (valsts pāri cilvēkam!), un sīkais tai pieķeras neveselīgi (jo vairāk nedabū, jo vairāk grib), bet tēvs (tiesas, menti un tml.) tikmēr ir tāpat audzināts nespējīgs gļēvulis, kuram šī toksiskā sieviete arī kļuvusi par dzīves attaisnojumu, kuru nedrīkst pazaudēt (galu galā - cik stiprs ir ments vai tiesnesis, ja viņam atņem uniformu?), līdz ar ko taisnība un saprāts tiek atlikts, līdz dāma būs apmierināta (neiespējami - jo šī sieviete/valsts īstenībā neeksistē, viņa ir tikai maska, stāsts, izrāde, cimperlīgs smadzeņu mežģis bez sirds). Sīkais (pilsonis) mēģina saņemt siltumu no mātes (valsts), morālu atbalstu (taisnību) no tēva, bet nedabū ne vienu ne otru, un pamazām uzņemas visu disfunkcijas nastu uz saviem pleciem - ja reiz šitas nestrādā, tad jau es esmu vainīgs, jo mamma un tētis nekad, nekad nekļūdās. Nekas, ka tie varbūt dzīvo bezgalīgā plostā (varas tripā) un atnāk parunāt tikai tad, kad grib kādam sadot pa muti (jāizpilda iekšējie attaisnojumi/normas sava power-tripa attaisnojumam). A bērns tikai ņem uz sevi aizvien vairāk baiļu, aizvien vairāk atbildības - lai tikai nabaga māmiņa neraud, lai tikai tētis nedusmojas, un pats sēž kaktā zilumains, nobimbājies un dauza galvu pret sienu. Ja vēl kokteilī iemet māsu vai brāli (līdzcilvēkus), kas tevi piedevām cenšas pazemot par "neadekvātu uzvedību", kad tu jau tā pēdējiem spēkiem centies tajā murgā kaut kā izdzīvot, tad mēs iegūstam šo burvīgo, visiem pazīstamo modeli, kad aiz bailēm vairs nav iespējams padomāt, un labāk vienkārši visam piekrist, zem visa parakstīties, visu izdarīt - ka tikai "miers" mājās. Pilnīgi bezjēdzīgs, visu veidu iznīcībai nolemts modelis. Pats no sevis tas nemainīsies, un nekāds Dievs to nemūžam nesvētīs.
27.11.15 11:28 - Double-Crossed for X-mas
Ziemassvētkos eglītes vietā varētu pulcēties ap krustā piesistu zīdaini.Vai gan katra normāla ģimene neturas kopā uz šādām naglām?
31.10.15 10:21
Mīlēt tos, kuri izvēlējās radīt tevi, nebija tavs pienākums.Tas bija viņu pienākums - mīlēt tevi.
Ja tu centies mīlēt, līdz tādi paši tevi saplēš vēlreiz,
vai meklē mīlestību, cenšoties atplēst vaļā tādus pašus,
tu atradīsi tikai naidu -
pret pasauli,
un pret sevi.
Bet var sākt arī no jauna.
Piedzimt labākam cilvēkam.
Tam, kas tu esi patiesībā,
tam, kas dod un ņem,
bez krāpšanas un viltus.
Tu neesi lielāks par mīlestību.
Mīlestība ir lielāka par tevi.
3.9.15 12:23
It is the abuse of people - not the abuse of drugs - that causes addiction.1.5.15 17:22 - attīstība un pašcieņa
Likums - oksimorons.Bērnu tiesību aizsardzības likums
I nodaļa. Vispārīgie noteikumi
1.pants. Likumā lietotie termini
Likumā ir lietoti šādi termini:
91) vardarbība — visu veidu fiziska vai emocionāla cietsirdība, seksuāla vardarbība, nolaidība vai cita veida izturēšanās, kas apdraud vai var apdraudēt bērna veselību, dzīvību, attīstību vai pašcieņu;
10) seksuāla vardarbība — bērna iesaistīšana seksuālās darbībās, ko bērns nesaprot vai kam nevar dot apzinātu piekrišanu;
11) fiziska vardarbība — bērna veselībai vai dzīvībai bīstams apzināts spēka pielietojums saskarsmē ar bērnu vai apzināta bērna pakļaušana kaitīgu faktoru, tai skaitā tabakas dūmu, iedarbībai;
12) emocionāla vardarbība — bērna pašcieņas aizskaršana vai psiholoģiska ietekmēšana (draudot viņam, lamājot, pazemojot viņu, bērna klātbūtnē vardarbīgi izturoties pret viņa tuvinieku vai citādi kaitējot viņa emocionālajai attīstībai);IV nodaļa. Bērna pienākumi
22.pants. Bērna pienākumi mājās
(2) Bērnam jāizturas ar cieņu pret saviem vecākiem (adoptētājiem) un citiem ģimenes locekļiem, pret aizbildņiem un audžuģimenes locekļiem.23.pants. Bērna pienākumi pret sabiedrību
(1) Bērns ir pilntiesīgs sabiedrības loceklis. Viņa pienākumi pret sabiedrību pieaug atbilstoši vecumam.
(4) Bērnam jāizturas ar cieņu pret valsti, tās simboliem un jāievēro likumi.VII nodaļa. Bērns un viņa dzīves vide
48.pants.Bērna aizsardzība no smēķēšanas un alkoholisko dzērienu ietekmes
(2) Bērnā ir jārada negatīva attieksme pret smēķēšanu un alkoholisko dzērienu lietošanu. [..]50.pants. Bērns un spēles, filmas, plašsaziņas līdzekļi
(1) Aizliegts bērnam demonstrēt, pārdot, dāvināt, izīrēt un propagandēt rotaļlietas un videoierakstus, datorspēles, laikrakstus, žurnālus un cita veida publikācijas, kurās propagandēta cietsirdīga uzvedība, vardarbība, erotika, pornogrāfija, kas rada draudus bērna garīgajai attīstībai.
(2) Bērnam nedrīkst būt pieejami materiāli, kuros propagandēta cietsirdīga uzvedība, vardarbība, erotika, pornogrāfija un kuri rada draudus bērna garīgajai attīstībai, neatkarīgi no to izpausmes veida, pārraidīšanas ierīces un atrašanās vietas.51.pants. Bērna aizsardzība no prettiesiskām darbībām
(1) Par vardarbību pret bērnu, par bērna pamudināšanu vai piespiešanu piedalīties seksuālās darbībās, par bērna izmantošanu vai iesaistīšanu prostitūcijā vainīgās personas saucamas pie likumā noteiktās atbildības.
(2) Bērnam, kurš ir noziedzīga nodarījuma, ekspluatācijas, seksuālas izmantošanas, vardarbības vai jebkādas citas nelikumīgas, cietsirdīgas vai cieņu aizskarošas darbības upuris, Ministru kabineta noteiktajā kārtībā bez maksas sniedzama nepieciešamā palīdzība, lai viņš atgūtu fizisko un psihisko veselību un integrētos sabiedrībā. Šādai ārstēšanai un reintegrēšanai jānotiek bērna veselībai, pašcieņai un godam labvēlīgā vidē, rūpīgi sargājot bērna intīmo noslēpumu.
(3) Katrai personai ir pienākums ziņot policijai vai citai kompetentai iestādei par vardarbību vai citu pret bērnu vērstu noziedzīgu nodarījumu. Par neziņošanu vainīgās personas saucamas pie likumā noteiktās atbildības.52.pants. Bērns — vardarbības vai citas prettiesiskas darbības upuris
(1) Vardarbības rezultātā cietušo bērnu ārstēšanai un rehabilitācijai izveidojamas īpašas iestādes vai nodaļas vispārējās ārstniecības iestādēs un valsts budžetā atvēlami speciāli līdzekļi. Izdevumus par bērna ārstēšanu un rehabilitāciju sedz valsts un pēc tam regresa kārtībā piedzen no vainīgajām personām.
(3) Bērnu, kurš kļuvis par vardarbības (prettiesisku darbību) upuri, aizliegts:
1) atstāt vienatnē, izņemot gadījumus, kad bērns pats to vēlas un šo izvēli par pareizu atzīst psihologs, kurš speciāli sagatavots darbam ar vardarbībā cietušiem bērniem;
2) atstāt bez psiholoģiskas un cita veida aprūpes;
3) konfrontēt ar iespējamo vardarbības (prettiesiskas darbības) izdarītāju, kamēr bērns nav pietiekami psiholoģiski sagatavots šādai konfrontācijai;
4) pakļaut jebkādu piespiedu līdzekļu pielietošanai informācijas iegūšanas vai citā nolūkā.
(4) Bērnam, kurš cietis no vardarbības (prettiesiskām darbībām) savā ģimenē vai kuram pastāv reāli vardarbības draudi, nekavējoties nodrošināma ārpusģimenes aprūpe, ja vainīgās personas nav iespējams izolēt no bērna.
27.2.15 13:11 - mind-bending confusion
Each item below identifies a parental or adult behaviour that is violent but ‘invisible’ because people would not ordinarily perceive the behaviour as damaging. The bracketed section identifies one or more likely responses of the child although the precise response(s) will obviously vary from one child to the next. The responses might be feelings and/or behaviours; they might be copies or reactions.
- treat child as a tabula rasa - ‘blank slate’ (child will come to believe that it has no innate, genetically programmed
capacity for functional behaviour) - pretend, despite negative feedback from the child, that interfering with the genetic programming of the child is both
loving and necessary (child will learn to identify abuse as love) - do not listen to child’s thoughts and feelings (child will learn to not listen to itSelf thus destroying its internal
communication system) - do not listen to and accept child’s explanations of its behaviours (child will develop dysfunctional behaviours such as
lying and/or wriggling out of acceptance of responsibility) - pretend to listen to child, perhaps in a ‘knowing’ way, while waiting for the earliest opportunity to interrupt it to get
attention for yourself (child will feel enormous fear, pain and anger, of which it will need to suppress its awareness, as it
is denied the opportunity to talk about something important to it and is required to give its attention to you at the same
time) - dogmatically refuse to listen to child (child will develop authoritarian - intense fear of being out of control - or
fundamentalist - intense fear of being wrong - ‘personality’) - do not allow child to listen to (that is, pay attention to) itSelf by chronically interfering with its natural inclination and
capacity to do so, for example, by comforting or distracting a child that is crying, reassuring a child that is scared,
frightening a child out of being angry (child’s natural capacity to become Self-aware will be destroyed) - interfere with child’s natural (e.g. exploratory) behaviours (child will become fearful of acting out its natural Self-
will) - chronically interfere with child’s genetically programmed exploratory behaviours (child will develop anatomical,
physiological, emotional, intellectual and/or behavioural dysfunctionalities possibly including mental illnesses such as
anorexia nervosa, obsessive-compulsive disorder, paranoia and/or phobias) - do not communicate (truthfully) with child (child will not have accurate information as one of the bases for its actions
and will become increasingly dysfunctionalised) - do not let child communicate with you, especially about your violent and damaging behaviours (child will have no
avenue for meaningfully resolving conflict and will become increasingly dysfunctionalised) - terrorise child out of telling the truth about, and resisting, parental violence (child will suppress its awareness of the
truth and be powerless to respond to this violence and the violence of others) - do not respond to child’s requests or its feedback about your dysfunctional behaviours (child will be reduced to
powerlessly whingeing and complaining) - interfere with child’s communication (child will develop communication dysfunctionalities, which usually obscure its
actual needs, such as compulsive talking, stuttering, lying, hinting and signalling) - routinely interrupt child (child will become fearful of both expressing itSelf and of listening, and will learn to
interrupt others) - persistently thwart child’s initiatives to do things for itSelf (child will eventually learn to quit easily and might even
develop a chronic unconscious tendency to thwart and punish itself as a manifestation of its self-hatred for failing to get
what it wanted) - keep interfering with child (by frightening it in any number of ways), despite all of its defences, until its submits to
parental will and then deny child the time and space to feel its fear, pain, anger and sadness about this interference and
its consequent submission (child will be terrorised into surrendering its own Self-will) - powerlessly appeal to one child for pity, sympathy and/or support when your violent behaviour is challenged by a
second child (first child will learn to perform a ‘guard dog’ function which it will then perform throughout its life;
second child will powerlessly vent its anger on first child instead of you) - project onto child that it is your parent and that it is responsible for caring for you (child will be caused enormous pain
and must grapple with mind-bending confusion) - project onto child that you are not the child’s parent (or carer) and that it should have no expectation that you will care
for it (child will be caused enormous pain and must grapple with mind-bending confusion) - demand that child gives you your due respect and gratitude as its parent (child will be caused to feel fury)
- present a delusion of always being ‘in control’ (child will learn to fear unusual challenges that nurture initiative and
creativity, and will probably end up deluding itself that it needs to be, and is, ‘in control’ as well) - pretend to child that you are something that you are not (child might become as delusional as are you)
- pretend to be and perform a set of social roles rather than being your natural self (child will learn to fearfully act out
social roles rather than have the courage to become its genuine Self, warts and all) - be anxious with child (child will learn to fear but also have sympathy for anxiety and will probably develop an anxiety
disorder, as well as other dysfunctionalities, of its own) - compulsively seek child’s reassurance to deal with your anxiety (child will unconsciously learn to reassure your
dysfunctional anxiety in the ways that you require and might develop an anxiety disorder of its own) - take child for granted (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to not appreciate others)
- do not let child have what it wants (child will feel stuck, trapped and frustrated, and will probably become greedy)
- do not let child do what it wants (child will feel stuck, trapped and frustrated, and will behave increasingly
dysfunctionally and compulsively, although these dysfunctionalities will not necessarily be easily traced to your
behaviour) - do not let child say what it wants (child will develop communication and behavioural dysfunctionalities as it keeps
trying to meets its needs) - let child say what it wants and then ignore or deny it (child will develop communication and behavioural
dysfunctionalities commensurate with frequency of occurrence) - define child’s needs and wants for it (child will develop a warped sense of what it needs and wants)
- deny child simple pleasures (child will become addicted to seeking pleasures beyond those that meet its genuine
needs) - never allow child to have its preference (child will become obsessed with getting its own way in all contexts)
- ‘give’ to child on condition that it allows you to control it (child will learn that the purpose of giving is to gain control
over others) - never tell child how you are feeling (child will learn to fear its own feelings as well as your feelings)
- never talk about feelings (child will learn to fear talking about its own feelings and the feelings of others)
- do not love child (child will feel that it is unlovable and will not develop the capacity to love itself and to love others)
- behave as if you do not need love (child will feel as if its love is worthless)
- behave as if love does not exist (child will not develop the capacity to love or it will learn to suppress and give up
using its capacity to love) - do not value child (child will learn to not value itSelf and to not value others or the Earth, and will behave
accordingly) - do not acknowledge child’s help or positive contribution (child will feel lack of acknowledgment as a disincentive to
help or contribute) - do not show your greater security or happiness when child helps you (child will feel the futility of trying to facilitate
change for the better) - do not let child interrupt you even when it needs attention for something important (child will learn to fear those who
pay close attention to themselves and what they are doing, and may develop a compulsion to interrupt or even violently
interfere with people who do this, particularly their own spouse and children, in order to get attention for themselves) - conspicuously behave as if you are superior to child (child might become sycophantic of ‘authorities’)
- ‘play the hero’ to child (child will be disempowered so that it cannot defend and protect itself)
- play a ‘Poor me, I need help’ role with child (child will learn to sympathetically assist powerless and dysfunctional
people like yourself) - tell child ‘You are only a child’ (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and Self-love)
- convey to child by attitude, words and/or deeds that it was ‘an unwanted accident’ (child will feel enormous fear and
pain – of which it will suppress its awareness – at not being wanted and loved, and will not develop the Self-worth and
Self-love necessary to expect to be involved in loving relationships and, for example, will probably choose an abusive
spouse) - treat child as unimportant (child will feel unimportant and will treat others as unimportant)
- treat child as insignificant (child will feel insignificant and will treat others as insignificant)
- project negative perception of child at child (child will develop a negative perception of itSelf, others and life
generally) - do not respect child (child will learn not to respect itSelf while, paradoxically, contriving ways to get it from others)
- do not be thoughtful of child (child will learn to be not thoughtful of others)
- do not like child (child will not experience what it means to be liked and, therefore, will not learn to like others)
- be inconsiderate of child (child will learn to be inconsiderate)
- be dishonest with child (child will learn to be dishonest)
- do not be compassionate with child (child will learn to not feel compassion)
- do not empathise with child (child will learn to not feel empathy)
- do not sympathise with child (child will learn to not feel sympathy and, later, to not recognise sympathy when it is
offered) - do not respect child e.g. child’s personal space (child will learn to not respect itSelf and others)
- do not respect child’s natural dignity (child’s natural dignity will be worn away)
- do not cooperate with child (child will learn to not cooperate with others)
- do not trust child (child will learn to not trust itSelf and others)
- do not trust child’s judgment (child will lose trust in its own judgment)
- do not show faith in child (child will lose faith in itSelf)
- do not be loyal to child (child will not learn to be loyal)
- do not care about child (child will learn to not care about itSelf and/or to not care about others)
- do not care about child’s things (child will learn to not care about its own things and/or to not care about the things of
others) - do not care about child’s thoughts and feelings (child will learn to not care about itSelf and others)
- never be kind to child (child will not learn to feel what it means to be treated kindly and, therefore, will not learn to be
kind to others) - never be nice to child (child will not learn to feel what it means to be treated nicely and, therefore, will not learn to be
nice to others) - ignore child (child will develop one or more compulsive attention-seeking behaviours, such as compulsive talking,
and will be unable to give attention to others; it might even treat others as if they do not exist) - dysfunctionally/compulsively seek child’s attention and/or distract child from paying attention to itSelf (child will
lose capacity to focus intently on itSelf) - try to persuade child (child will be scared that it is not allowed to choose freely)
- complain about child (child will be caused fear, pain, anger and/or sadness as it tries to respond to your powerless and
dysfunctional behaviour) - demand child’s time to do tasks for you (child will not learn to manage its time in accordance with its own Self-will, it
will learn to resent helping others and it will learn to demand the time of others) - cajole child into doing what you want it to do, for example, to eat what you want it to eat (child will become fearful
that it is not allowed to act out its own Self-will) - manipulate child into doing what you want out of fear of dealing openly and powerfully with conflict (child will learn
to fear conflict too and will learn to manipulate others as a result) - blame child (child will learn to avoid responsibility)
- condemn child (child will learn to condemn others)
- insult child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to insult others)
- deride child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to be derisive)
- mock child (child will be scared out of clearly explaining itself)
- goad child into behaving in a way that will allow you to justify to yourself getting angry with it (child will be caused
enormous pain, anger and confusion as it grapples with this mindbender) - be sarcastic with child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to be sarcastic with others)
- embarrass child (child will feel embarrassed at trying its best and will learn to embarrass others)
- humiliate child (child will feel humiliated at its ‘failure’ and will learn to humiliate others)
- shame child (child will feel ashamed and will learn to shame others)
- taunt child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to taunt others)
- tease child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will learn to tease others, particularly younger children
and pets) - snub child (child will experience enormous fear, pain, anger and/or sadness, and develop a low sense of Self-worth)
- ‘shut out’ child unless it does what you want (child will be scared into suppressing awareness of its own Self-will and
submitting to yours) - give child unsolicited advice (child might learn to rely on others rather than work out what to do for itself)
- ‘motivate’ child to do what you want and pretend that child is doing what it wants (child’s natural capacity to listen to,
and act on, its own Self-will is warped and, eventually, destroyed) - guilt-trip child into doing what you want (child will learn to feel guilty for acting out its natural Self-will)
- moralise with child (child’s natural morality will become warped)
- judge child (child will lose faith in its own judgment, particularly about itSelf)
- deceive child (child will experience fear and pain, its awareness of which it will probably suppress, and will learn to
deceive others) - trick child in a nasty way (child will experience fear and pain, its awareness of which it will probably suppress, and
will learn to trick others) - be nasty to child (child will experience fear and pain, and will learn to be nasty to others)
- be ‘narky’ with child (child will experience fear and pain as you pretend that your ‘narkiness’ is not supposed to hurt
it) - be ‘bad tempered’ with child (child might learn to ‘tiptoe’ around you in an attempt to avoid your ‘bad temper’ and
will become fearful of acting out its own will) - hate child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and might learn to hate others)
- lie to, manipulate and/or force child to make it believe your opinions (child will learn to fearfully submit to your view
and to lie to, manipulate and/or force others to make them believe its opinions) - take credit for child’s achievements (child will feel enormous pain and fear at being treated as if it does not exist as a
separate individual with its own capacities) - exaggerate the importance of your role/contribution to the child’s achievements (child will feel scared that its own
contributions to its achievements are not valued and will learn to overplay its own contributions while diminishing those
of others) - point out child’s inconsistencies and faults while ignoring your own (child will probably become as hypocritical as
you) - point out child’s inconsistencies and faults while denying your own (child will probably become as dogmatic as you)
- always adamantly and vehemently deny your dysfunctional behaviours (child will feel angry and powerless)
- always divert child’s attention from your dysfunctional behaviours, particularly by focusing on any functional or
dysfunctional reactive behaviour of the child or others in response to your dysfunctionalities (child will feel frustrated
and powerless) - lie to child (child will learn to lie)
- lie about child (child will feel enormous fear, pain, anger and/or sadness at this denial of its existence and it will have
difficulty holding onto its sense of Self) - do not believe child when it naturally tells the truth (child will learn to lie in an attempt to be believed)
- do not believe in child (child will not learn to believe in itSelf)
- ridicule/belittle child (child will lose confidence in itSelf and learn to ridicule/belittle others)
- ‘put down’ child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and learn to ‘put down’ others)
- be impatient with child (child will learn to be impatient with itSelf and others)
- be abrupt with child (child will learn to fear that there is no time or freedom for it to consider and choose what it
wants to do and will learn to be abrupt with others) - be irritable with child (child will become fearful of your irritability and will develop dysfunctionalities in response,
possibly including irritability with others) - be devious with child (child will learn to be devious)
- be jealous of child (child will learn to be jealous)
- be resentful of child (child will learn to be resentful)
- be callous with child (child will learn to be callous)
- be cruel to child (child will learn to be cruel)
- repeatedly criticise and/or thwart child’s initiatives (child will learn to quit easily rather than become determined)
- tell child what to do (child will lose capacity to be decisive and to take initiative)
- routinely tell child that it is wrong (child will develop a negative self-perception and become afraid to admit that it is
wrong) - never apologise to child (child will not learn to apologise)
- accuse child of not being itSelf (that is, of not having a mind of its own) if it doesn’t do what you want (child will feel
enormous fear and pain as it struggles with this mind-bender and desperately tries to hold onto its sense of Self) - approve and/or disapprove of child (child will become addicted to seeking approval and avoiding disapproval)
- reward, ‘discipline’ and/or punish child (child’s capacity to use its own thoughts, feelings and judgment to make
choices will be distorted or even destroyed) - contradict child’s complaints, criticisms, condemnations and ‘negativity’ by offering ‘reasonable’ explanations for
why things did not work out as child hoped/wanted or by telling child to ‘focus on the positive’ (child will feel unheard
and unconsciously suppress its awareness of its natural frustration and anger that would guide it to behave differently in
future) - criticise child (child will become, for example, hesitant and indecisive, as well as critical)
- patronise child (child will develop a low sense of Self-worth and will probably, therefore, patronise others)
- interfere with child’s natural feelings and then its projected feelings (child will learn to suppress awareness of its
feelings) - project that child is lazy (child will end up not trying because its efforts to help are not recognised and acknowledged)
- project that child is greedy (child might become fearful of seeking to have its legitimate needs met or it might become
resentful of the accusation and greedy as a dysfunctional response) - project that child has nothing (no friendship, love or care) to give and then treat it accordingly (child will feel
worthless and powerless, and will become resentful of giving, that is, ‘selfish’) - require child to behave in ways that do not cause you to have ‘unpleasant’ feelings (child is caught in a paralysing and
horrendously painful trap requiring it to suppress the feelings that drive its natural Self-will or suffer punishment for not
submitting to your will) - deny responsibility for your own feelings by projecting that child is causing them and blaming it for doing so (child is
dysfunctionally caused confusion as well as fear, pain, anger and /or sadness) - project that child does not love you (child will feel enormous pain and confusion)
- project that child is ‘getting in my way’ (when it was actually your parents) and thus control its behaviour (child will
be compelled to suppress its awareness of its feelings, including its anger, about this projection and control, and will
thus develop a powerless and dysfunctional behavioural response, such as whingeing and/or getting in other people’s
way) - project that child is attacking you and retaliate by attacking child (child will feel pain and blame at not knowing why
it has been attacked) - project that an activity in which child is engaged (such as waving its fork in the air) is deliberately intended to hurt
you and attack it in ‘retaliation’ (child is caused enormous pain and confusion as it grapples with this mind-bender) - project that an accident in which child is involved (such as cutting itself) is deliberately intended to hurt you and
attack it in ‘retaliation’ (child is caused enormous pain and confusion as it grapples with this mind-bender) - do not meaningfully negotiate with child (child will not learn to meaningfully negotiate and will learn, for example,
that things get done by telling others what to do) - do not share with child what it is reasonable to share (child will become obsessed with claiming resources from others
that is not reasonable) - expect/require child to ‘help’ you (child will learn to feel resentful of genuine, open-ended requests for help which
leave it truly free to accede to or reject as its own will directs) - never willingly do anything for child (child will become obsessed with having people do ‘little things’ for it)
- routinely deny child’s reasonable requests (child will learn to be devious, in one or more of a variety of ways, in
trying to get its genuine needs met) - resent child asking for help (child will become afraid to ask for help and will learn to force others to do what it wants
done instead) - always react to child’s requests with irritation (child will become afraid to ask for what it needs and might copy
irritated – that is, fearful – response to requests from others) - refuse to help child (child will lose its capacity to seek help when it is functional to do so)
- indicate that you do not want to help child (child will learn to believe that it is unworthy of help)
- convey to child that it is wrong to ask for help (child will be scared out of asking for help when it needs it and should
have it) - pretend that you are responding to your child’s request for help when you are really just doing what you want (child
will grow up with a distorted perception of what help really is) - do not listen to child when it asks for help (child will be terrorised, that is, child will become terrified, child will
become terrified of asking for help and child will unconsciously ‘learn’ not to ask for help) - terrorise child out of asking for what it needs/wants, for example, by screaming at it when it asks for something (child
will become terrified to ask for what it needs/wants, and will develop dysfunctional behaviours – such as hinting,
signalling, lying – in order to try to get it) - help child when it does not need it and/or has not requested it (child will become dysfunctionally dependent)
- chronically interfere with child’s natural efforts to do things for itSelf (child’s capacity to become self-reliant will be
destroyed: child is now enslaved) - force child to say that it is grateful (child will become incapable of gratitude even in situations in which this would be
a natural, functional response) - require child to ask for what it needs and then say ‘no’ (child will become fearful both of taking what it needs for
itSelf and of asking for what it needs from others) - require child to seek permission (child will become fearfully obedient at expense of its own Self-will)
- terrorise child into obedience (child will become fearfully obedient rather than powerfully cooperative)
- never acknowledge, in any way, the genuine needs of the Self of the child (child will become terrified that it is not
allowed to be itSelf and will then become self-obsessed to the exclusion of all others) - value disintegrated behaviours of the child rather than caring about the Self of the child (child will learn that it is
valued for what it does, not loved for who it is) - withhold/withdraw love from child (child will become fragile and vulnerable)
- intellectualise relationship with child or otherwise remain emotionally distant from child (child will learn to fear
emotional intimacy) - do not give child anything (child will not learn to give and will probably become greedy)
- be miserly with child (child will learn to be miserly with others)
- deny child’s material/financial needs (child will develop a warped sense of its material needs and how to meet these)
- control child’s access to material resources (child will become addicted to material resources)
- deprive child of resources or overload it with inappropriate resources (child will become addicted to resources it does
not need) - do not provide opportunities for child to experience nature (child will not develop a sense of valuing, appreciating and
nurturing the natural world) - express your fear of nature (child will learn to fear and behave exploitatively towards nature)
- express your prejudicial fear of women instead of feeling your genuine fear of the specific individuals (male or
female) who actually frightened you (child will learn to fear and behave prejudicially towards women, and will develop
a negative self-image if it is a girl) - express your prejudicial fear of men instead of feeling your genuine fear of the specific individuals (male or female)
who actually frightened you (child will learn to fear and behave prejudicially towards men, and will develop a negative
self-image if it is a boy) - express your prejudicial fear of another racial group instead of feeling your genuine fear of the specific individuals
who actually frightened you (child will learn to fear and behave prejudicially towards this racial group) - express your prejudicial fear of homosexuals instead of feeling your genuine fear of the specific individuals who
actually frightened you (child will learn to fear and behave prejudicially towards homosexuals) - feed child unhealthy food e.g. food that is not organically or biodynamically grown, food that is unnaturally fatty or
sweetened (child will develop unhealthy dietary habits and possibly chronic ill-health) - go to bed after it gets dark (child will learn to believe that living in a permanent state of sleep deprivation is normal
and appropriate adult behaviour) - give child toys with which to play (child will acquire unnatural and useless capacity to manipulate irrelevant synthetic
products rather than learning to use natural artefacts for life-enhancing ends) - teach child to play competitive games (child will learn to compete rather than to cooperate)
- touch child inappropriately, ‘clutchily’, non-relaxedly or otherwise fearfully (child will sense your fear and develop a
dysfunctional behavioural response) - never touch child affectionately (child will develop dysfunctional attitudes and/or behaviours in relation to touch,
perhaps including fear of its own body) - imprison child in school (child will be terrified into suppressing awareness of its own Self-will – and the phenomenal
fear, pain, anger and sadness this causes – as it is required to submit all day every day to the will of teachers) - imprison child in school (child will learn to suppress its awareness of endless insufferable boredom)
- imprison child in modern house/school (child is structurally denied capacity to develop self-reliance)
- force child to sit in chairs for long periods e.g. at school (child will develop postural, movement and/or physiological
dysfunctionalities) - teach child, that is, require child to do something that you want precisely as you prescribe (child’s natural interest,
initiative and creativity in learning something new is crushed as it fearfully, mindlessly and powerlessly imitates you; it
will also learn, and this is reinforced by experience at school, that learning requires mindless copying) - routinely convey message to child through attitude, language and/or behaviour that child is a failure (child will
experience enormous fear, pain and anger which, unless expressed, will later manifest as vindictive behaviour in
‘defence’ of its now-warped sense of self) - ignore and prevent expression of child’s natural anger (child will learn to take violent revenge on innocent parties)
- try to control child’s thoughts and/or feelings (child will lose faith in its own thoughts and/or feelings, and learn to try
to control the thoughts and/or feelings of others) - control child’s behaviour (child will learn to control the behaviour of others)
- scream at child either occasionally or routinely (child will learn to shut down its awareness of, but cannot shut out the
effects of, the fear and pain this causes) - harass child (child will learn to fearfully submit to harassment and learn to harass others)
- harass child when it has done nothing wrong and then scare it out of being angry about this (child will be compelled to
suppress awareness of its anger and might react by deliberately behaving in a way that people find offensive and then
responding with derision, perhaps by laughing, when they complain) - punish child when it has done nothing wrong and then scare it out of being angry about this (child will be compelled
to suppress awareness of its anger and might react by delighting in getting innocent people into trouble) - threaten, intimidate and/or punish child, e.g. by screaming at or hitting child, if it does not do what you want (child’s
fear and self-hatred will increase each time it submits to your will by suppressing awareness of its own, and it will learn
to threaten, intimidate and/or punish others) - threaten, intimidate and/or punish child to make it accept your perception of itself, others and reality generally (child
will lose control of its own mind and become a fearfully obedient slave full of unconscious self-hatred) - behave threateningly much of the time so that child lives in a permanent state of fear (child will develop a range of
behavioural, anatomical and/or physiological dysfunctionalities possibly including such problems as chronic muscle
tension, constipation and an inability to relax and/or sleep) - frighten child into submission by using threats and punishments but also some inducements (child will learn that it is
futile to resist violence and to fearfully placate violent people by ‘helping’ or collaborating with them in the
dysfunctional ways that they require) - threaten child with punishment if it does not collaborate with you in abusing other children (child will learn to
fearfully betray others to avoid punishment of itself, thus deepening the child’s unconscious sense of self-hatred) - threaten child with death using words, tone of voice and/or deeds (child will be terrorised)
- hit child routinely (child will develop a range of emotional, behavioural, physiological and/or postural
dysfunctionalities) - sexually abuse child (child might learn to fear sex or become addicted to it, depending on the nature and context of the
violence) - hold child responsible for your well-being (child will learn to hold others responsible rather than to take responsibility
for itself) - take revenge on child for what your parent(s), teachers and/or other adults did to you (child will powerlessly learn to
not hold the responsible person accountable and to take revenge on innocent parties) - inflict emotional and/or physical pain on child (child will initially experience this pain but will progressively learn to
suppress its awareness of the pain as it is denied opportunities for feeling it; child will also learn to inflict pain on
others) - repeatedly force child to do things that don’t meet your actual needs and never feel satisfied with or grateful for what
child has done for you (child will feel the pointlessness of helping and then fail to help others who genuinely need and
can use it) - force child to do what you want (child’s unconscious fear and self-hatred will increase each time it submits to your
will; it will also learn that relationships are based on dominance and submission, not cooperation, and it will behave
either dominantly or submissively in all social contexts depending on the situation) - keep pushing and pushing child to do what you want (child will be terrified that it is not allowed to choose freely and
will behave increasingly dysfunctionally) - go berserk at child when it tries to help you using its own initiative (child will become terrified of taking independent
action to help anyone) - blast child for doing things you don’t want and never give positive feedback for anything it does for you (child will
try to avoid blasts and will become indecisive and incapacitated by lack of positive feedback) - threaten or attack child to convey what you do not want it to do and then fail to give it credit for avoiding doing these
things in future (child will experience ongoing loss of energy as it restricts its own life for your benefit and will
experience confusion, powerlessness, anger and resentment at the lack of acknowledgment and gratitude for what it is
giving up) - force child to act against its own will (child will learn to be coercive)
- force child to do something that it finds terrifying because you are too frightened to defend it and also too frightened
to accept responsibility for feeling your own fear (child will be terrorised) - force child to do something that is terrifying for it because you are too frightened to do something less terrifying but
also too frightened to accept responsibility for feeling your fear about this (child will be terrorised into doing something
beyond its capacity and will learn that putting someone else ‘in the rat cage’ is the way to deal with situations in which
it lacks the courage to do what feels frightening) - treat child as a slave (child will learn that it is worthless and treat other people as worthless too)
- never accept responsibility for your mistakes and failures (child will learn to evade responsibility for its mistakes and
failures) - harp on child’s mistakes and failures (child will learn to fear mistakes and failures, and to dogmatically refuse to
acknowledge them, rather than learning to perceive mistakes and failures as valuable learning experiences) - punish child when it does something ‘wrong’ (child will learn to fearfully deny responsibility for its wrongdoing
rather than learning to fearlessly and functionally try again) - punish child for making mistakes (child will learn to fear making mistakes and will learn to evade responsibility for
them rather than learning to powerfully regard them as valuable learning experiences) - force child to accept the blame for your mistakes and failures so that you can avoid responsibility for feeling the fear
and pain this causes you (child will suppress its awareness of enormous fear, pain, anger and/or sadness, and learn that
avoiding responsibility by blaming someone else - rather than some combination of retraction, apology, compensation
and renewed effort - is the way to deal with mistakes and failures) - bribe child with, for example, confectionary and toys, to make it do what you want (child will learn that bribery is one
way of getting what it wants and that this is an acceptable way of doing so) - blackmail child, for example, by threatening to withhold something it needs if it doesn’t do what you want (child will
learn that blackmail is one way of getting what it wants and that this is an acceptable way of doing so) - extort attention, energy and/or time from the child (child will learn that extortion is one way of getting what it wants
and that this is an acceptable way of doing so) - steal child’s attention, energy and/or time to use for your own purposes, for example, to listen to your compulsive
talking or to do a task for you (child will learn that stealing is one way of getting what it wants and that this is an
acceptable way of doing so) - deny child’s truth/reality and force it to believe your projection, for example, that child caused your feelings which are
actually a projection from your own childhood with your parents (child will be caused enormous fear, pain, anger
and/or sadness that, if suppressed, will cause child in turn to endlessly project these feelings onto future interactions
with innocent parties such as siblings or, later in life, other adults and, of course, its own children) - present a positive picture of child’s life while ignoring and/or denying the negative experiences that are a part of it
(child will learn to suppress its awareness of negative aspects of its reality and to act in denial of these, rather than to be
aware of and respond intelligently and powerfully to them) - ignore and/or deny child’s experience and/or distract child from focusing on its own experience (child will learn to
ignore, deny and distract itself from the reality of its own experience and, therefore, from social and ecological reality). - be intolerant of child and its unique ways (child will learn to fear its natural Self)
Every time that a child is terrorised into surrendering control of its own mind in order to act on the will of another, its unconscious fear, self-hatred, powerlessness and inclination to use violence increase. Thus, the child is taught to be violent towards itself, others and the Earth through an unending sequence of parental and adult behaviours (entailing acts of commission and omission) that, individually, might easily be overlooked or even dismissed as insignificant. In brief, the child’s natural Self suffers death by a thousand ‘invisible’ cuts.
23.1.15 00:24
Nudien, bērni tiek ekspluatēti un apspiesti vairāk nekā jebkura cita sabiedrības grupa. Ļoti gudri no sociālās bezapziņas stratēģiskās perspektīvas.2.1.15 19:44 - the powerless powertrip
Ja nemaldos, par "toleranci" sauc to pretīgo piespiedu kopbūšanu, ko tik daudzi - sevišķi nelaimīgi apprecējušies+apbērnojušies cilvēki - sauc par "mīlestību".P. S.
Nē, tomēr tā "mīlestība" ir tolerance ar vienpusējām vardarbības tiesībām. Tātad, tajā kultūrā, kurā tiku uzaudzināts, MĪLESTĪBA=VARA.
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