ugliness is in the eye of beholder
Only I can save me; and not, surprisingly for some, their favored critique- whether open, or spoken behind my back. Maybe I deserve some kind of punishment, but don't they think I'm already living it? All their words and attitudes devoted to me are in vain. I don't care about whatever they want to proclaim as moral or normal.
All their morals, values, principles, good habits, "I-am-a-good-person" consciousness, are just tools that serve them for survival and reaching their goals.
So, basically, if I currently don't have big goals or don't intend to survive, that automatically makes me a "bad person" in their eyes.