Svaarstos starp vinjam pateikshanu par visaam vinja neizdariibaam un paaridariijumiem un truukumiem, un nelokaamas, beznosaciijumu miileeshanas turpinaashanu. Ko man dariit?
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begemots on September 6th, 2019 - 10:54 pmWell.
If you do care about loving somebody you'd tell them the things that make you love them less.
Then again, I would be extremely self-critical of speaking of things in terms of neizdarības un pāridarījumi. Those are your personal judgements of his actions, not anything half remotely objective.
What does matter is what you *like* and what you *dislike*. Or hate for that matter. You tell him what you dislike and how much (as in,"when you do XXX, that makes me feel like I should leave you [could be also some extrapolation on why it makes you feel so, eg. beacause it makes you feel powerless]"). As precisely as possible. And that's it. Whether it is a neizdarība or pāridarījums doesn't need to concern him. Because it is not what he does, but it is your judgement of him.
If you do care about loving somebody you'd tell them the things that make you love them less.
Then again, I would be extremely self-critical of speaking of things in terms of neizdarības un pāridarījumi. Those are your personal judgements of his actions, not anything half remotely objective.
What does matter is what you *like* and what you *dislike*. Or hate for that matter. You tell him what you dislike and how much (as in,"when you do XXX, that makes me feel like I should leave you [could be also some extrapolation on why it makes you feel so, eg. beacause it makes you feel powerless]"). As precisely as possible. And that's it. Whether it is a neizdarība or pāridarījums doesn't need to concern him. Because it is not what he does, but it is your judgement of him.
methodrone on September 7th, 2019 - 03:03 pmThis is very legit advice, paldies! Tev vienmeer ir maximally tuned common sense..