While society is chipping away at giving girls broader access to life’s possibilities, it isn’t presenting boys with a full continuum of how they can be in the world. To carve out a masculine identity requires whittling away everything that falls outside the norms of boyhood. At the earliest ages, it’s about external signifiers like favorite colors, TV shows, and clothes. But later, the paring knife cuts away intimate friendships, emotional range, and open communication."
There are so few positive variations on what a “real man” can look like, that when the youngest generations show signs of reshaping masculinity, the only word that exists for them is nonconforming. The term highlights that nobody knows what to call these variations on maleness. Instead of understanding that children can resist or challenge traditional masculinity from within the bounds of boyhood, it’s assumed that they’re in a phase, that they need guidance, or that they don’t want to be boys.
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/arch
June 13th, 2018 (01:16 pm)
Par pozitīvām tendencēm vīrišķībā runājot, mani pēdējā laikā iepriecina, ka sabiedriskās vietās aizvien biežāk redzami vīrieši ar bērniem. Gan ar bērnu ratiņiem, gan ķipariem, gan skolas vecuma. Ziemā kādā akūtajā stundā pie ģimenes ārstes pasmaidīju, jo torīt gandrīz visus puikus bija atveduši tēvi, bet gandrīz visus skuķēnus - mammas. Arī pazīstams divu bērnu tēvs minēja, ka tagad viņš jūt daudz mazāk šķību skatienu no apkārtējiem, kad viens ar bērniem kaut kur dodas, nekā pat gadus divus atpakaļ.