What's so bad about people pleasing? I think its bad not to live in a pleasing way. If done authentically, being a pleasing person is almost magical. Of course if you're not a nice person then don't pretend to be.

All this cheesy nonsense about how women should stop being people pleasers is just another bullshit to turn women into men who only want to assert away one step from starting wars.

I love people pleasing! It makes me feel so glad and even powerful to have made somebody's time easier and lighter. Perhaps even to have inspired them that things they want to achieve next are not as hard since they are now in a good place to commence them.