Pēc ilgāka laika nedaudz palasīju to psiho grāmatu par pieķeršanos. Un tur tā diezgan skaidri uzrakstīts, piemēram, par ideālo partneri, tīri interesanti. In general, an ideal partner is (a) open and nondefensive, (b) honest and nonduplicitous, (c) affectionate and easy-going, (d) mentally and physically healthy, (e) independent and successful in his or her chosen career or lifestyle, and (f) aware of meaningful existence that includes humanitarian values.
Un tad vēl ir vesela nodaļa par ideālajām attiecībām, kaut kā šādi: # Interactions in an ideal relationship: nondefensiveness and openness/ honesty and integrity/ respect for the other's boundaries, priorities, and goals, separate from self/ physical affection and personal sexuality/ undestanding - lack of distortion of the other/ noncontrolling, nonmanupulative, and nonthreatening. # Interactions in a relationship characterized by a fantasy bond: angry reactions to feedback. closed to new experiences/ deception and duplicity/ overstepping boundaries. other seen only in relation to self./ lack of affection. inadequate or impersonal, routine sexuality./ misunderstanding - distortion of the other/ manipulations of dominance and submission. | 
