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kad man kads saka, ka nav ko urket vecas retas (?) un taa, dzive ir daudz sarezgitaka, dazi mani no maniem milakajiem citatiem (haotiski, par dazadam teemaam)
Pain travels through families until someone is ready to feel it. - Stephi Wagner
We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are. - Anaïs Nin
The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth. - African Proverb
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate. - Carl Jung
Healing can be terrifying to people who don't know who they are without their pain (?)
It takes tremendous energy to keep functioning while carrying the memory of terror, and the shame of utter weakness and vulnerability (Bessel van der Kolk)
One of the hardest things for traumatized people is to confront their shame about the way they behaved during a traumatic episode (Bessel van der Kolk)
In later years I encountered a similar phenomenon in victims of child abuse: Most of them suffer from agonizing shame about the actions they took to survive and maintain a connection with the person who abused them. This was particularly true if the abuser was someone close to the child, someone the child depended on, as is so often the case. The result can be confusion about whether one was a victim or a willing participant, which in turn leads to bewilderment about the difference between love and terror; pain and pleasure. (Bessel van der Kolk)
Working with trauma is as much about remembering how we survived as it is about what is broken.(Bessel van der Kolk)
However, trauma is much more than a story about something that happened long ago. The emotions and physical sensations that were imprinted during the trauma are experienced not as memories but as disruptive physical reactions in the present (tas pats) |