kad es šodien modernās sniegbaltītes noskaņās žāvēju zirņus ar fēnu, es vēl nezināju, ka vakarā mani gaida lieliska, gara un saturīga saruna par svarīgo.

paldies, saldumi!

- do you wish to be shot?
- ...no
- then behave differently.

I try to make authenticity my number one goal when I go into a situation where I’m feeling vulnerable. If authenticity is my goal and I keep it real, I never regret it. I might get my feelings hurt, but I rarely feel shame. When acceptance or approval becomes my goal, and it doesn’t work out, that can trigger shame for me: “I’m not good enough.” If the goal is authenticity and they don’t like me, I’m okay . If the goal is being liked and they don’t like me, I’m in trouble. I get going by making authenticity the priority.

//Brene Brown, 2010, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are