It sucks how people sometimes defend shitty people by saying, well - it is just the way they are, they mean well. Good people don't make other people feel the darkness, they don't treat people badly and don't say obviously hurtful things, end of. If you ever encounter somoene who does that, they are not good people, they are clearly posessed, they are not themselves anymore, and you should never engage with a demon. If you are ever in doubt about treatment of others just question if love, if Jesus would ever act in such a way, or if not - who would act in such a way.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.