...I have stressed the fact that the beloved person is a substitude for the ideal ego. Two people who love each other are interchanging their ego - ideals. That they love each other means they love the ideal of themselves in the other one. There would not be love in earth if this phantom werw not there.(..)
When people are entirely satisfied with their actual selves, love is impossible. The transfer of the ego - ideal to a person is the most characteristic of love.
- Theodor Reik, Of Love and Lust
citēts no Robert Greene "The art of Seduction" |