We've grown to associate the thrilling ups and disheartening downs of chasing someone's affection with having something worth fighting for.
Because we need to feel that there's something worth fighting for before we believe we want to invest in it.
Those who are seemingly out of reach or unavailable have high value in this regard. Speaking from a biological standpoint, it makes sense that we seek out those who we think are better than us.
That's the point of reproducing: to create a better offspring. Humans have evolved over time to naturally prefer people who are healthy and strong, but also who are emotionally mature enough to be nurturing, protective and loyal. We live comfortably in "the chase" of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.
That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we'd rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.
Because we need to feel that there's something worth fighting for before we believe we want to invest in it.
Those who are seemingly out of reach or unavailable have high value in this regard. Speaking from a biological standpoint, it makes sense that we seek out those who we think are better than us.
That's the point of reproducing: to create a better offspring. Humans have evolved over time to naturally prefer people who are healthy and strong, but also who are emotionally mature enough to be nurturing, protective and loyal. We live comfortably in "the chase" of someone else, or in the completely rejection and heartbreak by someone else.
That is where we feel most at home. For whatever reason, we'd rather seek out rejection than have affection from a lesser-valued person.
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