"And to the extent that they are perfectionists, idealists often set high standards for themselves and expect others to do the same. They are reluctant to reveal themselves until they feel that they have met their own incredibly high standards, for to do otherwise would be hypocritical. Their fertile minds uncover every flaw in their thinking and actions and every reason why their creative solutions would not work, or would not be sufficiently helpful, or are unimportant. As a result, they become appeasers or avoiders or overwhelmed withdrawers because it seems safer and less risky thay way. It feels easier to merely reflect the personalities and values of others than to try to be true to their own."

- Webb "Searching for meaning"