Self-Awareness Onion

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Otrdiena, 22. Nov., 2022 | 11:23 am

Self-awareness, like an onion, has multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back, the more you are probably going to start crying at inappropriate times.
1st layer: how do I feel? What is my emotion? – I am sad; I feel happy; I feel disappointed… do not try to deny your feelings.
2nd layer: the ability to ask why we feel certain emotions – why do I feel that way? Why I am sad? Why I am kind of depressed?
3rd layer: personal values – why do I see this as a success or failure? How am I choosing to measure myself? With what metrics am I judging myself and everyone around me?
This level takes constant questioning and effort and is very difficult to reach. But it’s the most essential, because the nature f our problems is determined by our values, and the quality of our lives is determined by the nature of our problems.
It is vital to know your values because, the determine the quality of your life. You have to change what you value and how you measure failure and success if you want to change how you see your problems.
Denying negativity is like perpetuating problems instead of solving them. It is alright to not be optimistic all the time. Negative emotions are vital element of emotional health.
The subtle art of not giving a f*ck.

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