"You can’t be yourself because of fear of abandonment and because of children’s egocentrism, everything that happens is for them. So nice girls can’t be themselves because they see being themselves dangerous. So your result is to fulfill a lifelong dream for safety… unhealthy attachment or not feeling like enough. So you might get a dog to compliment you more or a car to get looks but none of those things are you, you just do it. So you just block people from actually getting to know you. To a nice girl, validation from men is the ultimate form of approval. If she gets the attention of men, she’ll feel amazing. If men leave her (which men do because of nature), then she feels responsible. So you’ll do everything possible to get him in a good mood. You’ll see that you’re in that hole. You react because you believe it’s your fault he’s mad. That’s how you see life and how victims victimize others by never taking responsibility.
How to step out? Become aware of the need. Notice the type of behavior that feeling creates. Notice how you react to it, good or bad.
Ask yourself: What’s happening? What wants my attention now? What part of me is saying now? Don't judge. Just observe. Don’t try to figure out why. You’re not making it go away.
Stay conscious of your excuses that come from fear or else they’ll subtly make you react and become integrated into your self-image. Engage all of your senses in your everyday activities and be aware of facts, interpretations, and emotions.
Now you’re not needy. You’re more attractive by mere deduction."
How to step out? Become aware of the need. Notice the type of behavior that feeling creates. Notice how you react to it, good or bad.
Ask yourself: What’s happening? What wants my attention now? What part of me is saying now? Don't judge. Just observe. Don’t try to figure out why. You’re not making it go away.
Stay conscious of your excuses that come from fear or else they’ll subtly make you react and become integrated into your self-image. Engage all of your senses in your everyday activities and be aware of facts, interpretations, and emotions.
Now you’re not needy. You’re more attractive by mere deduction."
/Mindful Attraction, vissakarīgākais dating coach pasaulē, varētu n-tos citātus likt/