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  <pubDate>Mon, 20 Mar 2023 20:25:01 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Harris Dickinson (b.1996)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content2-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Dickinson.sized.jpg?1679343671&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Sadness and also triangle. (Watch The Beach Rats.)&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2023 16:34:28 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Perkusionists no Elbas Filharmonijas orķestra</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content20-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Elbphilarmonie.sized.jpg?1673540928&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Tur vispār&amp;nbsp; pusorķestris ir seksīgs. Tāpat kā viss no Bernsteina.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;(Šajā gadījumā &quot;Cha-cha&quot; (andantino con grazia) no Symphonic Dances.)&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2022 14:38:45 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Kornejs Čukovskis (1882-1969)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content20-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/1-6-768x768.sized.jpg?1671718362&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Viendien Ņevzorovs stāstīja, kā jaunais čekists puķins, censdamies uzkalpoties, terorizējis viņa meitu, cilvēktiesību aktīvisti Lidiju Kornejevnu.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;1) Viņa vienmēr staigājusi milzu zābakos (vai varbūt milzu vāļinkos) un vienmēr ilgi un rūpīgi berzusi kājas uz kājslauķa pie durvīm. Tāpēc čekas leitnants puķins izdomājis paliet viņai zem kājslauķa saulespuķu eļļu. Vecenīte slīdējusi un kritusi. Bijušas gan šuves, gan lūzumi.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;2) Uz vecumu viņa jau bija gandrīz akla. Tāpēc lasīšanai izmantojusi milzu lupu, bet, lai varētu rakstīt savas disidentiskās slejas, cīņubiedri viņai no Rietumiem sūtījuši trekna kalibra melnos flomasterus. Čekistam puķinam pasts par katru sūtījumu ziņu deva pirmajam. Un Maskavā viņš dabūja godarakstu par to, ka vismaz trīs gadījumos bija ieradies pastā, un nogriezis visiem flomasteriem mīkstos flaneļa rakstāmos galiņus, pirms tie nonāk pie adresātes.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;(Lidijas tētis attēlā, smuks un vajāts reizē tiešā un netiešā sakarā.)&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Thu, 10 Mar 2022 17:58:31 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Константин Мирошников, служба новостей Эхо Москвы</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content33-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Miroshnikov.sized.jpg?1646934810&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Paspēju uztaisīt skrīnšotu tieši vienu dienu pirms tam, kad Eho likvidēja.&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 26 Nov 2021 11:42:13 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Hermann von Bruiningk (1849-1927), Livländische Ritterschaftsarchivar</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content20-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/200px-Hermann-von-Bruiningk.sized.jpg?1671722167&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Tomēr apprecējās, eh. Lai gan tikai vecumdienās.&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2021 01:01:41 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Adam Parker (1988), York Museums Trust</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://content0-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Adam-Parker.sized.jpg?1610412936&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Stāv man uz tām kalsnajām sejām (un intelekta pazīmēm). Neko nevaru ar sevi iesākt.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Jo vairāk tad, ja radars griežas kā vilciņš.&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 29 Nov 2019 11:45:32 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Paul Dirac (1902-1984)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://needulldotcom.files.wordpress.com/2018/01/e8dea02ded.jpg?w=529&amp;amp;h=391&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&quot;Friends jokingly coined term &quot;a dirac&quot; which stands for a smallest number of words possible to speak in one hour while still taking part in the conversation. It&apos;s a sort of a unit of shyness.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Sat, 06 Jul 2019 11:06:33 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Stephen Toulmin (1922-2009)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://dornsife.usc.edu/assets/img/news/story/651.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Mr. Toulmin: If it comes down to the choice, I&apos;d rather be kind than clever.</description>
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  <pubDate>Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:54:09 GMT</pubDate>
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  <description>Šeit neejiet. Šis ir strupceļš.</description>
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  <pubDate>Thu, 21 Sep 2017 23:59:20 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Françoise Hardy (b.1944) en 1967</title>
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  <pubDate>Mon, 11 Sep 2017 12:31:52 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>George Steiner (b.1929) interviewed by Alan Macfarlane in 2007</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://content33-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/George-Steiner.sized.jpg?1505131881&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Macfarlane: &quot;Do you have any views about sources and springs of poetic expression?&quot;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Steiner: &quot;My sadness is, that I haven&apos;t had certain printing errors, which commit you to immortality. Thomas Nash, contemporary of Shakespeare, rival of Shakespeare, very envious of Shakespeare, translates Villon. Not translates in our sense, but adapts the famous ballads of Villon. He translates beautifully a French line about Helen of Troy: &quot;And as she goes grey, brightness falls from her hair.&quot; &amp;nbsp;Very beautiful line.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;His printer misreads the manuscript and gives us &quot;the brightness falls from the air&quot;. One of the great lines in world poetry, for which Nash is remembered. The luck of that error - that too can be a great creation.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 11 Aug 2017 00:28:40 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Dan Savage (b.1964), on the right side of the history</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://content30-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Dan-Savage.sized.jpg?1502410568&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Savage: &quot;There&apos;s often an ignorance. Young gays and lesbians are raised by older gays and lesbians. You know, Jewish kids with Jewish parents will hear about Massada and Warsaw Uprising, because they learn Jewish culture from their Jewish family. Gay kids are raised almost invariably by heterosexual parents. Often by heterosexual parents, who are hostile to gay culture and hostile to their gay kids, seeking to deprive them of role models. Young gay kids, when they first came out, were usually really ignorant about gay history. By the time they&apos;re 30, they&apos;ve usually educated themselves and learned some things about gay history along the way. But 18, 19, 20 years old gay kids ar ignorant by design. Not by the fault of their own.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Mon, 10 Jul 2017 21:48:27 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Edouard Louis (b.1992) on a book tour</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-BoJBDNaTXxw/VTpvy_0dkmI/AAAAAAABMJ0/qwxqcH7RbKA/s1600/slim-twink-white-shirt-edouard-louis-gay-eddy-bellegueule-portrait-novel-author-writer-autobiography.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Louis: &quot;I realized that all the things, that I considered personal, when I was a kid, in fact were political. Even the tears of Eddy were political, because they were allowed by a certain political and sociological context in a certain country at the certain time.&quot;&lt;br&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Mon, 03 Jul 2017 20:19:57 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>NYC guys, some time between year 1975 and 1983</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-a4r3l8gm1KY/T-tgNxW_P3I/AAAAAAAABKY/bDUUvffBGHY/s1600/photo-2.JPG&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;From Fire Island Polaroid series by Tom Bianchi.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;All probably dead by now. (So keep calm and move on.)&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Sun, 21 May 2017 15:03:17 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Quentin Crisp (1908-1999)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/df/46/0a/df460a09b7d45e941723d4cd32c3395b.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Crisp: &quot;But the crowning moment of Evita&apos;s entire career as a political stylist came, when she rose in her box in the opera house in Buenos Aires to make a speech. She lifted her hands to the crowd, and as she did so, with the sound like trucks in a railway siding, the diamond bracelets slid from her wrists. When the expensive clatter had died away, her speech began: &quot;We, the shirtless...&quot;&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Wed, 17 May 2017 12:12:45 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Charlie Chaplin (1889-1977) makeup off</title>
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  <pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2016 10:41:20 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Hannah Arendt (1906-1975), im Gespräch mit Günter Gaus</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://content6-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Arendt.sized.jpg?1475577381&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Ms. Arendt: &quot;The personal problem did not lie in what our enemies did. But in what our friends did.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Tue, 20 Sep 2016 13:20:55 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Fran Lebowitz (b.1950)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-Ur_iRP8AB0k/T61R-FGzXgI/AAAAAAAAjUY/0OsKgaecMIE/w506-h397/lebowitz_fran.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Ms Lebowitz: &quot;If you know, that people who are watching you do the thing, have those immensly high standards, you&apos;re gonna be better. If you wrote something and you know, that the audience will get every little thing, you&apos;ll work to get every little thing in. I think of it as a collaboration. They appreciated it. They knew what you were doing. I think, that no matter what&apos;s your art form is, to have that type of audience is a tremendous boon to an artist. I don&apos;t think that it really exists anymore.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Tue, 30 Aug 2016 12:23:11 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Sir Jonathan Miller, b. 1934 (first from the left, literally)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://feelingmyage.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/beyondthefringe1.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Miller: &quot;It led me to have this sort of scene of Marie Antoinette in a tumbril, trying to comfort her maid, sobbing on the way to guillotine. And saying: &quot;It is alright, Vivi, I know that I am going to be Shirley MacLaine! Whoever that is.&quot; The thing is, that there&apos;s no room in Shirley MacLaine for Marie Antoinette. Shirley MacLaine is working flat out of being Shirley MacLaine. And she can&apos;t entertain a lodger! Particularily, a disembodied lodger.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Thu, 21 Jul 2016 18:25:56 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Stephen Fry, b. 1957 (let&apos;s call it a brotherly love)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://data.whicdn.com/images/25027086/large.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Fry&apos;s advice on how to cope with homophobic bullies, if met: &quot;Don&apos;t touch me, don&apos;t touch me! You&apos;ll give me an erection!&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Sun, 17 Jul 2016 19:22:56 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Sam Harris, b. 1967, not that weary of this particular topic</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;http://content32-foto.inbox.lv/albums/s/simamura/27-11-2007/Sam-Harris.sized.jpg?1468781113&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr. Harris: This drug had been advertised to us as something that can reveal something about the nature of human mind. And it was exactly what we experienced. For those who has taken MDMA, it won&apos;t be a surprise. There was no psychedelic component in it, no change in visual properties, or anything. What there was, was just a feeling of dropping away of self-concern. That was totally liberating. I&apos;d never realised that I was carrying around this burden of self. To the degree that I was. When talking to somebody, the part of my attention was bound up in worrying about what they thought of me. I wasn&apos;t just seeing the other person, I was triangulating on myself, through their eyes. Modifying how I felt about myself.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And so I was sitting there with a very close friend at that time and I didn&apos;t even noticed that drop-away at that moment. I kind of retrospectively realised: Oh, My - this thing is gone! This monster of me, which has been behind my face, is gone! And I&apos;m just free to realise that I love and wish nothing but happiness to the person, I&apos;m sitting with. For that MDMA experience Love is the main epiphany. Love is a state of being, which entails just being deeply commited to the happiness of other beings. Whether you know them or not.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;The epiphany that really anchored that to me and how I realised, that something unusual had happened to my mind, was that I was sitting, again, with my best friend at that time, and realising how much I love this guy. And we both were teenage, heterosexual men, who even hadn&apos;t thought in those terms - loving your male friends. I don&apos;t think I&apos;d ever hugged a male friend before that point in my life. There was just this outpouring love to the friend of mine. And then I realised that if a stranger had walked into that room, I had loved that stranger, too.&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 29 Apr 2016 14:26:31 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Karl Ove Knausgård, b.1968, on book tour</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/82/4f/5d/824f5d8510910949a839b6ce456b874b.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Mr.&amp;nbsp;&lt;span style=&quot;font-family: &amp;#39;Linux Libertine&amp;#39;, Georgia, Times, serif; line-height: 1.3;&quot;&gt;Knausgård: &quot;That&apos;s the only way to have a relationship, really. If you don&apos;t lie, it will collapse. &quot;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 15 Apr 2016 10:24:49 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Andrew Sullivan (b. 1963), breaking ground in his thirties</title>
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But the truth is, in reality, people are living lives increasingly dependent on friendships, not love. They marry later, they divorce, there’s much more intermingling. The women’s movement and feminism, i think, - in some ways the greatest achievement of feminism is the expansion of the possibilities of friendship for human beings. Because, what it has done by the creating the possibility for - the first time really - the greater authonomy and freedom of women and also understanding, that men and women can relate on equal terms. It has actually made the friendship between men and women possible for the first time on a mass scale in human history. It’s an astonishing achievement and something, that feminists should be much more interested in talking about. Women among themselves had always had this enormous capacity for friendship. And gay men have, too. Partly because they were denied marriage. But straight men increasingly have a terrible time constructing friendships, that they are not panicked about. They always have to be “doing something”, when they are together, in case someone might construe a possibility that they are just spending time with one another. How many times do heterosexual men go out to diner with each other? They’re terrified. And that’s another way how the hatred and fear of homosexuals plays into this. This is why the friendship is related to some level with homosexuality. Because the homophobia and the fear of homosexuals has actually restrained straight men’s capacity for friendship, inhibited them, made them afraid of it. And they need it! And they’d benefit enormously from it. Which is why the campaign to destigmatize homosexuality is not a campaign for gay liberation alone - it’s also a campaign for straight people liberation. It’s a campaign to allow men to have friendships, that are real and deep and emotional. And what do you think promise-keeping is about? Promise-keeping is about friendship! It’s about having bonds that these straight men can live with and enjoy and feel proud of and not ashamed of. But even there they’re so afraid, that they only have these touchy-feely emotional friendships in a context of brutally homophobic ideology. Because the closer you are in that context the more emphatic you have to be that you’re not gay. And that also has to do with many organizations you see in the world that are all-male or have intense opportunities for male-male bonding like the military or the church. That it’s those organizations where the capacity for real friendship among men is at greatest, so there has to be the most brutal inforcement of homophobic ideology. What a shame! What a loss! And what we are fighting for is to make their lives more rich and more deep.

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  <pubDate>Sun, 10 Apr 2016 16:00:44 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Ryan Steele (as Chip) b.1990</title>
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  <pubDate>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 01:11:25 GMT</pubDate>
  <title>Judith Butler, b. 1956 (could be my dad)</title>
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  <description>&lt;img src=&quot;https://donnafleischer.files.wordpress.com/2010/07/judith-butler-jerry-bauer-photo.jpg?w=510&quot;&gt;&lt;div&gt;Ms. Butler: &quot;It happened last year, some time, I come to door, and there is this man and he says: &quot;excuse me, Mister..., Madam..., Mister, Madam...&quot;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;He couldn&apos;t get through it.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I kinda leaned forward and asked &quot;is it really important to determine my gender in order to check minibar?&quot;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Of course, I humiliated him and immediately felt really bad. And this was also a class moment, and I was not sensitive to that. He&apos;s a worker, he doesn&apos;t know, what to do with people like me.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And then he said: &quot;of &amp;nbsp;course, not, Mister..., Madam..., Mister..., Madam.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And then, the next day, I go to the pool. The same hotel. I then was in the ladies&apos; locker room changing and a young woman comes in and says: &quot;Oh, oh, do the ladies and the blokes change together?&quot;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&quot;No, no, I don&apos;t think so. This IS for the ladies,&quot; I said.&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And she said: &quot;Oh, sorry, sorry, I was so confused!&quot;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Then I leaned forward, making up from my sin of the previous day and I said: &quot;I am a lady.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Which is the first time in my life that I ever said it.&quot;&lt;/div&gt;</description>
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